Sitting still isn’t easy. Why is this such a crazy notion to so many of us? Let’s not discuss the given. Here’s what I’ve been learning from spending a few minutes every morning willingly sitting still and just breathing. Yup that’s all it really is. There’s no tactics or special way to do this. Just get comfortable. Close your eyes. Take some deep breaths and watch the thoughts in your mind go insane. This is when it gets hard. This is when we think the notion of sitting still is bullshit. But you know what, that notion is our mind – and I’m calling bullshit on my mind.
This is what I tell myself if I don’t feel willing one day. It’s incredible to be in a state of awareness that continually expands, yet to make this possible, I have to do the opposite. I have to be still and just let my thoughts come out. Go ahead, try it. No pressure. But I dare you to create time and actually listen to your thoughts. Because here’s the kicker. Here’s the real knowledge I’m gaining by DOING NOTHING…
Nothing matters, until we make it matter. Until we put meaning behind it, until our minds choose to create a story about it. Good, bad, doesn’t matter. It’s all a story created by the mind. Which is okay! Actually, it’s more than okay. It’s amazing to witness it and become aware of the layers of the stories, my perspectives, my life experiences. This is the ego and the self. I am both. You are both. But many times, we allow the ego to sit behind the wheel. Mediating gives the wheel to the self.
I once thought meditation had to be learned, understood, and grasped to be able to “achieve” some sort of state of mind, some sort of enlightenment. I used to THINK it was above me, I would have to work “hard” to accomplish this state. But the truth is, that’s bullshit and so is almost everything else that is a thought in our mind, because we made it up! And so does every other person. It’s our individual, diverse perspectives of life that create our stories, show us what we’re interested in, focused on, or trying to achieve.
Obviously we all see the paradox here. We humans are fueled by the desire to achieve, evolve, grow, DO. And now in the last few centuries, we’ve taken off like a freakin’ rocket ship, literally. We’ve accomplished more in the past few hundred years, than we have in the entire history before then. And we’re not slowing down.
But we must.
We must slow down our minds, and begin to listen to that deeper part of us. That part of us that is forever unfulfilled by the outer achievements of doing. That part of us that continues to be in wonder and awe of it all but can’t seem to find peace in the chaos. Why is this so important? Why is getting out of our heads actually better for our evolutionary growth as individuals and as a species? So we can begin to truly see that we aren’t our achievements. We aren’t even our thoughts. We aren’t our emotions either. We are that deeper part, the longing, that place that is only love. Our soul, our self.
When we find moments of stillness more and more, we can let the thoughts of the mind come… and then we sart to let them go… we don’t dwell or analyze. We don’t ponder or drag out ‘What If’ scenarios. We just watch them come, and watch them go. This isn’t easy. At first, that’s all there is. A continual reminder to be still, breathe, and just bare witness to the thoughts and emotions. Don’t hold on to them. Don’t THINK about them. Just let them out! They have to get out!
Now, I don’t know how many days later, but it has only been a few days of really allowing my head to let go and really just sitting until I feel like it, but here’s the truth: I’ve created a whole new level of normal. My head is losing control and I love it. The best part, I haven’t really learn anything new. What I am realizing is that I am just creating a TON of clarity around not just a few things but EVERYTHING in my life. All at once.
Is this scary? Hell YES. Does it feel good, YUP. How do I know this scary is good? Because I’ve been sitting still. I’ve found space in my time (no excuses!) to unburry all the thoughts that haven’t gotten a chance to surface and release. And when they leave, what’s underneath, what’s down deeper, is a vast emptiness that is full of limitless possibilities, Possibilities, that I’m realizing my tiny little thought clogged minds can’t create on it’s own.
Each day I find stillness, I am unclogging my mind of thoughts that don’t serve me. I’m finding incredible clarity that brings me joy throughout the rest of my day, even in those moments of stress (which I don’t expect to ever leave). I am beginning to discover more and more hidden treasures within myself and within others too. You know, the ones that no one else really has. The ones that are totally and utterly yours. The ones you may be afraid to share, because they sound crazy or stupid or because no one else will get it. The gifts that make you different, diverse, yet completely connected all the same. You know you have them too. You’ve seen glimpses at least.
Those glimpses are clues. When we find stillness and listen to our hearts, we can follow these clues of curiosity. What’s more in this state of BEING, I’m doing more than just uncovering these hidden gems, I’m clearing seeing their purpose in my life. They are becoming my fuel, my confidence, my reason for evolving, my reason for continuing to dive deeper, to discover more.
Finding stillness each morning, even if only for a few minutes, gives me a chance to start my day from this space, my head clear and free. My mind (ego) is slowing releases control, (not so) slowing pouring out the thoughts, drains the emotions, and begins to clear the way for the heart to be heard. To feel the real me, even more. To listen from this place makes the rest of my day feel full and complete before it even begins. Now I know no matter what I DO, I am doing from a place of BEING at peace. From the place of new awareness, I’m exponentially expanding my imagination, my creativity, my individuality and my connectedness to everyone and everything around me. This beautiful paradox is the best place to be, so if you’ve gotten this far, take this as a clue too.
Maybe this will help you start now. Right now…
Finding stillness is a game for me. If you know me at all you know I am a hyper active, energetic person, always on the go – but who isn’t these days. THIS IS NOT EASE. If it were, we’d all be DOING it by now. That’s why I make it a game. When we play games, we have rules. No cheating, play fair, and try to win. So here’s a fun game, I DARE you to play every morning.
My Meditation Game:
- Get comfortable in a sitting position.
- Breathe, with your whole body.
- Sit still.
- Did you move? Did you get distracted? Me too. It’s okay. Just go back to being still.
- Breathe in and out.
- Sit still again.
- Now… you may start to hear your thoughts.
- Watch your thoughts come.
- Watch them go.
- If you realize you skipped step 9, thats okay.
- Now LET them go. Let your thoughts go.
- Repeat steps 2-11
- Stop asking questions. There is no right answer.
- Just do it. I mean just BE it. Be still.
By the way, I just made this up as I was typing. Have a great day!
Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have.